UnDomestic

Writings of a teachermom, choosing to stay home with her kids, while loathing all domestic responsibilities! In late Aug. 2008, I was diagnosed with Triple Negative breast cancer. After surgery, chemo and radiation, I was given theall clear. However, in the late summer of 2008, I was diagnosed with a brain tumor, which metasticized to other areas.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Busy Week

Can't believe it is over a week since the last posting. I keep going back to edit this as each day is different and doesn't seem to be relevent the time I want to post. I also wanted to post some pictures of the kids first day of school, but haven't figured that out yet so you will only get words this time. Cari had a relatively better week. Meaning she was not sleeping as much as the last week, not in as much pain, however on the other end, very restless and often confused throughout the day and night. Cari asked me today why she is so scared. I was greatful to receive a book from Fairview Home Health Care and Hospice and was able to answer her question. It seemed to satisfy her and calm her down some. Not knowing what each day has in store for you can be frightening. I am just so honored to be able to be by Cari's side each day and hold her hand so she knows she is never alone on this journey. She actually had some visitors this week and was able to converse for short periods of time. Her Dad came for the week end and was pleasantly surprised to see her talking to him when he arrived at 1AM Saturday morning. She was asking for him all week so I guess she wasn't going to miss the opportunity to see him the first chance he arrived.


Like all families it was the first week of school for the Ashford kiddos. Cameron started 3rd grade with the Gateway program at Baily School. Max is now in full time kindergarten and Ella attends preschool 3 half a days a week. Well the saying "it takes a village to raise a child" is so true. The Ashford children are very fortunate to have a very involved Daddy and dedicated Nanny in their lives and neighbors helping to cart to practices and having play times with all that has to be accomplished.

This week we have plans to meet with Hospice and review what services they have to offer.
Please pray that Cari will find more restful moments, especially at night, so all can be refreshed to tend to her needs.

In His Peace!

"For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God."
Romans 8:18-19

37 Comments:

At 10:47 AM, Blogger connie and rob said...

God Bless You, Mary Beth. You have such a beautiful family. Cari, I'm so happy for all the kids. It seems like only yesterday we were talking about Cameron's first year of school and what his needs were, etc. You have done so many good things in your life! Your kids are proof. Peace to you all. Do you know the song, "Here I am Lord, It is I Lord, I have heard you calling out my name."--It's beautiful, it may bring you calm. Love from all of us. Connie

 
At 10:54 AM, Anonymous Beth E said...

Mary Beth,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, and Melvin and the kids constantly. I am praying for your peace and beautiful time with Cari. I pray that Cari's nights are restful as well as yours. May God hold you up right now and forever.
Beth

 
At 11:27 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mary Beth,
Cari is so lucky to have you! The moments you spend together can only be described as precious, may God give you many more. Thank you for taking the time to continue to update us on Cari. I check her blog every day and pray for her always. May God bless your family as you continue to go through each new day together.
Give Cari my love and a hug.
Nancy

 
At 11:58 AM, Blogger Marsha said...

Prayers for Cari are continuing to come your way. I pray for the whole family, may God grant you peace.

 
At 12:17 PM, Blogger JJ said...

Thank you for the update. Prayers for you and the family.

 
At 1:14 PM, Blogger Caro said...

I will pray for those restful moments for Cari and I will pray for you and the rest of the family also.

 
At 1:42 PM, Blogger mi said...

How wonderful to have such a dedicated family to stay by your side. Take joy in those beautiful children, and the chance to sooth Cari when she is frightened, and enjoy her 1 am conversations. My thoughts are with you all.

 
At 5:32 PM, Blogger KC said...

Mary Beth, I think you're amazing.

Cari, I think you're amazing, too.

Your family is always in my thoughts and prayers. Love to all!

 
At 8:46 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mary Beth, thank you so much for keeping us posted. I can't imagine what you are going through. I am so inspired by your strength; it is is obvious where Cari gets hers! It must be such a comfort to her to have you there, knowing you are by her side and such a great help with the children. I know she feels so surrounded by love by your family, Melvin and the kids. Please tell her I am always thinking and praying for her and wishing her peace. God bless you all.
Anne Yaggy Brunenavs

 
At 11:23 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Nirel Morris : Thank you so much for the updates! I have heard so much about you, but never had the chance to meet you. I am a former student of Cari's and have always been inspired by her. I would love to come visit the family as Cari had always visited my home when she was in New Jersey. My email is nmorris@yahoo.com. I look forward to hearing from and my heart goes out to you and your family

 
At 7:44 AM, Blogger Fatty said...

I'm glad you're going to talk with hospice. They can be such a big help, taking care of a lot of the mundane stuff so you can take care of yourself and your loved one. The caring, respect and attentiveness they showed to my wife's needs made me wish that all medical treatment could follow their example.

 
At 7:55 AM, Blogger Jaye said...

Thank you so much for the update. Always know that we are praying for and with you all! Love & hugs!

Psalm 62:5-8 "My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him. He only is my rock and my salvation: he is my defence; I shall not be moved. In God is my salvation and my glory: the rock of my strength, and my refuge, is in God. Trust in him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before him: God is a refuge for us. Selah."

 
At 8:33 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mary Beth,
I pray that God continues to give you the amazing strength that is so evident in your posts. I'm sure that although these moments are extremely difficult, they are also blessed. There is nothing that a mother wouldn't do for her daughter, and you are a shining example of this. What an inspiration the Spitz family is for me. I will continue to pray for Cari's and the entire family's comfort and peace.
Love,
Bernice

 
At 12:39 PM, Blogger Fantastic Four said...

Praying for you all. Hospice is a great thing and it brought so much comfort and help when Tom's father was leaving us. Bless you all and may God grant you peace!

 
At 1:16 PM, Blogger JT's gal said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you. May our God who gives all peace and understanding be with you and your family.

 
At 3:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cari, you and your family are doing everything just right. May you continue to be assured of that as all of you travel this road, one you haven't been down before.
Praying for Christ's grace to cushion and comfort all of you,
A Michigan Pastor

 
At 8:14 PM, Anonymous Terese said...

All of you are always in my heart, my thoughts and my prayers. God Bless you All. Always love, Terese

 
At 9:07 PM, Blogger Who is John Galt? said...

God Bless Cari

 
At 8:31 AM, Blogger TRUTH SHARER said...

Marybeth:
Thanks for posting again and keeping us all updated in blogland about Cari.

I'm sure she is scared - it's a normal reaction to what is happening to her.

But I PRAY that you will take time to read God's Word over her. Flood her heart and mind with His TRUTH to assure her of who she is IN CHRIST! She is His Beloved Child - whether He calls her home soon or in 50 more years.

Suggestions for reading:

Joshua 1: 1-9
Ephesians 1
Galatians 2:20
Psalm 1, 8, 136, 145

just for starters!

Choosing JOY, Stephanie
[JESUS - For His Name's Sake]

 
At 10:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mary Beth,

You are in my thoughts and prayers. I pray for peace and comfort for Cari and strenght and health for those caring for her. Peace,

Miriam

 
At 6:26 AM, Blogger cindy said...

Praying for all of you.

 
At 8:04 PM, Blogger LH said...

Thanks for blogging for us.

Please tell Cari that her Undomestic readers in Indiana are sending all love her way.

 
At 1:12 PM, Blogger Angela's Kitchen said...

Love you, Cari...

 
At 3:03 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

9/22/09:

Thinking of the Ashfords today - I wish Cari and her family peace.

 
At 3:25 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Our thoughts and prayers are with the Ashfords and mom and dad. Cari is in a better place where she is at peace. She will remain with you all as your guardian angel. Let us know if we can do anything,

Suzie Levy and Lora Nylund

 
At 4:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sad to hear that Cari has passed away. You are all in my prayers.
Nancy Anderson

 
At 6:39 PM, Blogger Fantastic Four said...

An ANGEL earned her wings today and will be forever missed! Hoping everyone will find peace during this time of sorrow. Love- The Sanneman's

 
At 8:07 PM, Blogger IrishMommy said...

God has finally called Cari to be at peace. She has touched so many lives and will be missed. I pray for Gods' comfort and love to fall upon each of us mourning such a wonderful & courageous woman!

 
At 9:01 PM, Blogger momo said...

oh, mary beth and family. i am heartbroken as i write this - my thoughts and prayers are with you now and in the coming days. cari was such a bright ray of hope for all those who encountered her. i will be walking the breast cancer 3day here in arizona on november 13-15 and i want you to know that cari's memory and her courageous battle will be with me every step of the way.

very sincerely,
melisa angelone

 
At 9:07 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mary Beth & Tom, God bless you and the whole Ashford family. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Words can never ease the pain and loss but know that Cari rests with Jesus. We love you guys. Budd & Kathy

 
At 9:26 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thoughts and prayers to your family during this time.. May God be with you and give you strength each day.

 
At 9:27 PM, Blogger Laugh! said...

I have typed and deleted several times to think of the best thing to say - something that would bring comfort to your pain, if only for a moment. But nothing seems good enough so I will simply say that the example of love and strength that your family has shared has been inspiring, encouraging and heartfelt. Thanks for sharing your journey. Peace to you all -

 
At 11:50 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know that there is nothing I can say to ease your pain or lessen your grief, but just know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. Cari truly made a difference in my life and so many others...she will never be forgotten. Love and comfort to all your family and just know that I am thinking about you in this time of saddness. Love you!
Andrea Sommer Lundgren

 
At 5:06 PM, Anonymous Kris Gendreau said...

Melvin and family,
I ache for you with your loss of Cari. She was one of those people whose warmth was felt as she entered a room. Even when dealing with 3 kids in one crowded exam room, she gave each child just what they needed - she was a wonderful woman and a gift to this world.
Love from the Gendreau Family

 
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